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SHOULD WE END IT? When is it right to end a relationship? While I’m not advocating that you should end your relationship, there are signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. For a relationship to grow, there must be effort from the two people in the relationship. The moment that isn’t there, there’s problem. I believe when there are issues, it can be sorted out so that the relationship can continue. When do you decide to end your relationship though? Last time, we discussed narcissism. While loving yourself is not completely bad, narcissism makes that love you have for yourself develop to a state that you have to make others feel less just to make yourself feel better than them which sometimes make them talk about themselves more, so that others will be envious of them, thereby benefiting themselves only. There are some who behave like this in a relationship. They can frustrate a relationship sometimes, but that doesn’t call for an end to this relationship. For some, relationshi...

What is Narcissism Lets start with what it means then we'll see what can cause it. According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, narcissism refers to someone who is egocentric (caring too much about yourself and not about other people), and has love of or sexual desire of one’s body. A narcissist sees himself as perfect which prompts them to look at others with a distorted view. This makes them scorn people to increase their sense of self importance. They use this to manipulate people. Is being a narcissist good? For you to know the answer, you need to know what narcissistic people do. Narcissistic people have some of the behaviours highlighted below. 1. They are usually bossy with a high sense of self importance. They see others as less important and only view them as an entity to satisfy themselves. 2. They take advantage of others just to help themselves achieve a goal, or to benefit themselves. 3. They envy others or believe others are envious of them. 4. ...

In our discussion yesterday, I said today’s discuss would centre on attitude. Attitude like other personality traits can define who someone is. Some people actually do not know what kind of attitude they have, so I’ll discuss it today for you to know the one you have and the one that its better to have. Attitude is one of the things that can get you through life. So what are the major type of attitudes. While today’s discuss won’t be a long one, I will try to explain this attitudes for you to understand. 1. Positive attitude 2. Negative attitude 1. Positive attitude : According to the name, this form of attitude deals with positivity. It hinges on having a positive mindset. A positive attitude moves one to always be positive towards situations. For example, someone positive would look for the good in others even when they display some of their bad behaviors. It breeds confidence and happiness along with determination to do well. Attitude sometimes is not automatic. A positi...

ATTRACTION So lets talk attraction. What is attraction? Why do we need to know about it? Many people actually have to get attracted to a person before they relate with such person. For some, the attraction is instant, while others take time to build. It could be because of different reasons from the time to the place to the emotion one was feeling at that moment. The main reason, however, is that we have more than one type of attraction. Many people don’t know that there are different types of attractions as they are stereotyped to a particular form of attraction. In this discuss, I will cover two types of attractions that are common today. Types Of Attraction While there are different types of attractions, I will be discussing two types of attractions that border relationships. 1. Romantic attraction 2. Emotional attraction 1. Romantic attraction : This form of attraction is common. It hinges on the feeling of having a romantic relationship with someone. Romantic at...

JEALOUSY Today’s discuss takes us to Jealousy. Jealousy is one of the few things that frustrate a relationship. Depending on how your type of jealousy, your relationship can last or end abruptly. Why is the discussion of jealousy important? A young man saw his girlfriend talking with another young man freely. He could see her smiling with this young man something she had reduced when with him. ‘Maybe it is this guy’s influence that is making my girlfriend act up’ was what was running through his head. He then moved to face this guy to show that the young man was trespassing on his territory. He shoved his girlfriend to one side when she tried talking to him about the issue. A young lady sees her boyfriend talking to another lady. She could see he is enjoying her company, smiling, maintaining eye contact while they spoke to themselves. The lady pulls her hair back while the young man was talking to her and she thinks ‘is she trying to seduce my boyfriend?’ She walks up to the ...

LOVE So I was thinking today about what to discuss. And I remembered that not all know the truth about love. Our emotions can fluctuate at times, and when I mean fluctuate, I mean can jump to excited state in nanoseconds. One can feel so exited or relatively shy around the person they have a crush on. But what really is love? It’s a strong feeling of caring about someone fuelled by the attraction of that person. Many times people get this thing that’s close to love. Its infatuation. Infatuation is also a strong feeling for someone or interest in someone. Usually, it doesn’t last long. It is always short lived. When you’ve spent sometime together, you get to see that you are not compatible. Infatuation can come from different things, or reasons, but the most common is the appearance. Many men tend to be attracted by the beauty of a lady; same can be said of ladies. Both men and ladies get drawn mostly by the physical attributes of the person. Some, actually get attracted to peo...

MINDSET Our discussion today, takes us to mindset. Let’s take a step back and look at yesterday’s discuss. We spoke about PROGRESSION and the need to always progress. In yesterday’s discuss, we highlighted three examples. First, about the stream and the stagnant water. Second, we discussed about a man who searched to have a good job. Third, we discussed the achievement of Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg. In these three examples, we were able to see the need for progression. One thing about that however, is progression stems from having a mindset to progress, or move forward. Then, what is mindset? Mindset can be described as a particular way of thinking. A person’s attitude or set of opinions about something. This definition is straight-forward as to what a mindset is. From the two examples of yesterday’s article pointed earlier, there was a difference. The man, stopped after getting that job. Mark on the other hand didn’t stop after founding Facebook. He went on to purchase...