Should we end it
SHOULD WE END IT?
Last time, we discussed narcissism. While loving yourself is not completely bad, narcissism makes that love you have for yourself develop to a state that you have to make others feel less just to make yourself feel better than them which sometimes make them talk about themselves more, so that others will be envious of them, thereby benefiting themselves only. There are some who behave like this in a relationship. They can frustrate a relationship sometimes, but that doesn’t call for an end to this relationship.
For some, relationship should be ended when there’s a hint of denial of feelings. This denial to them is strong enough proof of a failing relationship, so they prefer to abandon ship than fix the holes.
A relationship can be likened to a ship, and you are the captain of the ship. You might ask why I likened it to a ship. Just as a ship is, your relationship is just one of the many relationships in the world. The ocean is dangerous that sometimes even the best captains experience hiccups in these waters. The same thing can be said about a relationship. There are many things that threaten relationships. Even those in relationships for long and have experience sometimes face problems in their relationships and these problems as small as they can be, can put the relationship at risk.
Now lets talk about how the ship is managed. In a ship, there are many operators, asides the captain. These operators have their jobs to do in the relationship. These operators act as your attitude to the relationship. While there are different attitudes displayed in a relationship, having good ones would help in navigating your relationship through the dangerous waters.
As a captain of your ship, you have the sole power to make your relationship work. But the real question is when should you end your relationship? As with ships, a captain will always strive to keep the ship alive. Same can be said about relationships. Keeping your relationship alive is no easy task though. It requires great effort from both sides to keep it working.
A captain loves his ship like its an extension of himself. A relationship should also be seen in such a light. That way, when a relationship is having problems, you don’t quit. Some people let trivial issues harm their relationship. They start seeing the bad things in their partner and get tired of the relationship. Like a pilot in a plane, they are always the last to leave the plane. When there is an event of a failing plane, they try their best to navigate it for a crash landing at most. While I’m not saying you wait for your relationship to crash, I’m trying to bring the point that you don’t just leave your relationship. You try to see how you can steer it to safety. It takes effort. You just will try to make sure that you can save your relationship.
So what’s the advice about when to leave? You only leave when you’ve given everything (water, blood, sweat) and it still isn’t working. You will see the signs that your relationship might not be working, definitely. That doesn’t mean you should end it. You can still strive to make it work. Reboot all systems, read the repair manuscripts, watch examples of relationship makeovers. Experience matters. Learn from experiences, even those of others. Then love unconditionally
Your unconditionally love would be a force that will move you to keep your relationship alive and working. No matter the situation, you can come out together.
So the question should you end it? My answer is also a question. Have you given your everything to make it work?
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