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JEALOUSY Today’s discuss takes us to Jealousy. Jealousy is one of the few things that frustrate a relationship. Depending on how your type of jealousy, your relationship can last or end abruptly. Why is the discussion of jealousy important? A young man saw his girlfriend talking with another young man freely. He could see her smiling with this young man something she had reduced when with him. ‘Maybe it is this guy’s influence that is making my girlfriend act up’ was what was running through his head. He then moved to face this guy to show that the young man was trespassing on his territory. He shoved his girlfriend to one side when she tried talking to him about the issue. A young lady sees her boyfriend talking to another lady. She could see he is enjoying her company, smiling, maintaining eye contact while they spoke to themselves. The lady pulls her hair back while the young man was talking to her and she thinks ‘is she trying to seduce my boyfriend?’ She walks up to the ...

LOVE So I was thinking today about what to discuss. And I remembered that not all know the truth about love. Our emotions can fluctuate at times, and when I mean fluctuate, I mean can jump to excited state in nanoseconds. One can feel so exited or relatively shy around the person they have a crush on. But what really is love? It’s a strong feeling of caring about someone fuelled by the attraction of that person. Many times people get this thing that’s close to love. Its infatuation. Infatuation is also a strong feeling for someone or interest in someone. Usually, it doesn’t last long. It is always short lived. When you’ve spent sometime together, you get to see that you are not compatible. Infatuation can come from different things, or reasons, but the most common is the appearance. Many men tend to be attracted by the beauty of a lady; same can be said of ladies. Both men and ladies get drawn mostly by the physical attributes of the person. Some, actually get attracted to peo...

MINDSET Our discussion today, takes us to mindset. Let’s take a step back and look at yesterday’s discuss. We spoke about PROGRESSION and the need to always progress. In yesterday’s discuss, we highlighted three examples. First, about the stream and the stagnant water. Second, we discussed about a man who searched to have a good job. Third, we discussed the achievement of Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg. In these three examples, we were able to see the need for progression. One thing about that however, is progression stems from having a mindset to progress, or move forward. Then, what is mindset? Mindset can be described as a particular way of thinking. A person’s attitude or set of opinions about something. This definition is straight-forward as to what a mindset is. From the two examples of yesterday’s article pointed earlier, there was a difference. The man, stopped after getting that job. Mark on the other hand didn’t stop after founding Facebook. He went on to purchase...

PROGRESSION   Compare having a stream running behind your house to having a stagnant water. Which would you prefer? Most likely, you would prefer them stream. Why the stream? For one, it is flowing. Second, it is clear to see through. A stagnant water however doesn’t move. It gets dirty with time and would be the habitat to many disease causing insects. How does this comparison link to today’s discuss? The house is you, your life. It represents the kind of person you are, factors that affect you, conditions surrounding your life. Situations where you find yourself. The success and failures you experience. The stream or stagnant water however, represents your reactions to these factors, situations, conditions of the house. What then is progression? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines progression as the process of developing over a period of time, a continuous and connected series of actions, events, etc. It also describes stagnant as not active, not changing, or not p...

Today, we’re discussing something that troubles lots of people; LONELINESS or BEING LONELY. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines lonely as ‘sad from being apart from other people’, ‘causing sad feelings that come from being apart from other people’. Looking at the two definitions, we notice two things are common. First ‘sad’, the second, ‘being apart from other people’. Is being apart from other people not BEING ALONE? Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines ALONE as being ‘without anyone or anything else’ or ‘without people that you know or that usually are with you’. What is now the difference between BEING ALONE and BEING LONELY? Looking back at the definition of lonely, we find the exact difference. Being alone is a state of being, while being lonely is a feeling of that state. To be alone, people would not be around you. It’s you all by yourself. Being lonely, however, is different. You can be among people and still be lonely, which points to the fact that you don’t need to be a...