Loving someone

LOVE

So I was thinking today about what to discuss. And I remembered that not all know the truth about love. Our emotions can fluctuate at times, and when I mean fluctuate, I mean can jump to excited state in nanoseconds. One can feel so exited or relatively shy around the person they have a crush on. But what really is love?
It’s a strong feeling of caring about someone fuelled by the attraction of that person. Many times people get this thing that’s close to love. Its infatuation. Infatuation is also a strong feeling for someone or interest in someone. Usually, it doesn’t last long. It is always short lived. When you’ve spent sometime together, you get to see that you are not compatible.

Infatuation can come from different things, or reasons, but the most common is the appearance. Many men tend to be attracted by the beauty of a lady; same can be said of ladies. Both men and ladies get drawn mostly by the physical attributes of the person. Some, actually get attracted to people who are smart. Great thinkers. Most times, after this attraction fades, they tend to end the relationship. Love on the other hand is like leadership. Why do I say its like leadership?

When you’re running or heading a team, its easy to lead them when everything is going according to plan. When everyone is working well to achieve the main goal. Anybody can do that. Just come out, and lead a team that doesn’t have problems with carrying out their jobs at the best optimized standard. The real job of being a leader, however, is when the team is having problems; when they are finding it hard to meet objectives. A true leader will show his leadership skills by pushing the team, either verbally, or through examples.

Comparing love to leadership, it grows stronger with time. Unlike infatuation which fades with time, love blossoms with time. As time passes, love is what makes one stay with the partner since, either the beauty wanes gradually or the physical attributes. What remains is what the love would use to keep a relationship going. To love, you’ll be willing to let go some of your traits that doesn’t seem right just to make sure the relationship blossoms.

Remember the earlier discussions, about being unselfish, about making good communications, these are some things that keep the love bond in a relationship strong. Remember, keeping things simple will simplify your love life, making it easy for you to navigate through the rigors of a relationship. It’s never easy, but it’s possible. Having a growth mindset can help you want to push your relationship forward, so you look for ways to keep your partner from being lonely so that they can avoid depression or feelings of being inferior in your list of favorites.

To know if it’s love, you have to look beyond the surface. That is beyond the appearance (beauty and physical attributes). You have to get to know the inner person to know if you will be compatible or not. That way you save yourself the stress of jumping out of relationships. To love is to like based on verified evidences. Verified evidences are things noticed which is beyond the surface. Not just the appearance. You need to see through the person. Know the thoughts, or how the person thinks. Draw them out. Get to know the real person, then you would know if you really are compatible or not. Some people quickly decide not to be interested in someone because of the appearance. While it is essential to check for these, it is also important to know if the person in question doesn’t have ulterior motive for the relationship. Always keep your issues simple. Remember what love is.

L – Like based
O - On
V - Verified
E - Evidence