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So after our last discuss on Bring Back Our Sanity, its been a while since we got a discuss to feed your eyes and mind. Many would have even grown impatient about our seeming abandonment, so I thought it right to address that topic; PATIENCE . What is Patience? Well patience can be referred to as the capacity of being patient, which is the ability to remain calm and not become annoyed when waiting for a long time or when dealing with problems or difficult people. We all want things done at the time we want them done; perfect timing. As much as we love this, it doesn’t always pan out that way. We get disappointed because of the expectations placed on certain things to be done in a certain way at a certain time. The question now is what if those certain things don’t get done in the certain way we want at the certain time we expect, do we get frustrated: angry because we feel we can’t do anything about it? Or do we get angry at those who didn’t make it happen the way we wanted? O

From inception, the Supreme God, head of the universe said, " Let us make MAN in our own image .". This 'making' was an epochal invention in the calendar of God. Everything God created was a hit, back to back. From the firmament to the stars, from the land to the seas and to the animals. Man, was not an exception- an awesome masterpiece from the master. But, it is disheartening that in this 21st century, some men, though not all, in their lack of technical knowledge and intellectual foolishness take decisions to ruin the information that has been genetically and conceptually coded in them. And, this will cost them. The issue of " Transgender " is a salient issue that must be addressed with so much alacrity before it aggravates to becoming an unremovable thorn in our flesh. Let me create a window of understanding in this height of human perplexity. Years ago, a British make-up artist, Jordan James, spent a whopping sum of 150 thousand dollars on

Choice is one of the few things I see as ultimate. From the moment we start thinking, our actions are determined by choice. Some people may actually refute this claim, but let’s look at it critically.  A baby is crying because she wants to eat. The action (crying) is a choice made by the baby, knowing that the action would lead to something good (food). Some people would actually think that if a necessity, I am not disputing that. Take a look at this, the baby has a choice to refuse to acknowledge that he/she wants to eat at that time and could be playing with something else at that point but the baby most times decides to acknowledge that food is needed at that point in time and then heeds to the call. Why am I talking about choice? Choice seems to be really underrated with people not knowing the power choice has. The Merriam-Webster dictionary describes choice as the opportunity or power to choose between two or more possibilities. Do you recall the example I gave, there was a

Worry I’m seated at this table, thinking about how and what I would write. I didn’t know what to write about or how I’ll go about writing it. Confused, tired, and feeling stressed with my head aching, then I thought about writing what’s happening to me, the same thing that happens to many people. Worry. Many people worry. In fact almost everyone worry. Worry is an uneasy feeling caused by thoughts of what will happen if this or that is done. Worry doesn’t make one look at how a problem would be solved, instead, one keeps looking at the possible outcomes of a certain decision taken. This can cause stress. As it can cause physical stress, it can also cause mental stress. Having these kind of stress can affect the way our day can be. One can be affected physically also, displaying symptoms of what happened to me earlier, tiredness, confusion. When you worry, it affects your reaction to certain actions. Let me use myself as an example. While being worried about what to write about a

While I’m not a doctor or medical practitioner of any kind, there are some things I’ve could out through reading, listening and observations. I’ve learned about somethings that people experience that they don’t know about, or they know about but don’t understand properly, like today’s topic for example. What is Stress According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, stress is a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life, work, etc or something that cause feelings of worry or anxiety. The things that cause stress are called stressors. There are different types of stressors. They basically depend on what is experienced by the person. There are physical stressors, which affect the physical aspect of the body from body pains to bone ache, muscle pain etc. These pain experience could be as a result of the workload put on the body. Working the body too much for too long could cause this form of stress. It can make it hard for one to perform some basic operations lat

ANGER There are many books, articles, stories about anger or anger management. Still, we see people who don’t read these articles or books probably they see it as not important. I decided to write about anger today because there are some things people do overlook that may be of importance to them without them knowing. Our attitude to anger can determine where we find ourselves tomorrow or the next. WHAT IS ANGER? Anger is a reaction, an emotional response to a particular situation that offends someone or a person they love. The Longman Dictionary describes angry as ‘felling strong emotions which make you want to shout at someone or hurt them because they have behaved in an unfair, cruel, offensive way, or because you think that a situation is unfair, unacceptable, etc.’ This description highlights the point that anger makes you want to either shout or hurt someone. Now let’s talk about the effect of anger. While many don’t see this, anger actually causes increased heart r

SHOULD WE END IT? When is it right to end a relationship? While I’m not advocating that you should end your relationship, there are signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. For a relationship to grow, there must be effort from the two people in the relationship. The moment that isn’t there, there’s problem. I believe when there are issues, it can be sorted out so that the relationship can continue. When do you decide to end your relationship though? Last time, we discussed narcissism. While loving yourself is not completely bad, narcissism makes that love you have for yourself develop to a state that you have to make others feel less just to make yourself feel better than them which sometimes make them talk about themselves more, so that others will be envious of them, thereby benefiting themselves only. There are some who behave like this in a relationship. They can frustrate a relationship sometimes, but that doesn’t call for an end to this relationship. For some, relationshi

What is Narcissism Lets start with what it means then we'll see what can cause it. According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, narcissism refers to someone who is egocentric (caring too much about yourself and not about other people), and has love of or sexual desire of one’s body. A narcissist sees himself as perfect which prompts them to look at others with a distorted view. This makes them scorn people to increase their sense of self importance. They use this to manipulate people. Is being a narcissist good? For you to know the answer, you need to know what narcissistic people do. Narcissistic people have some of the behaviours highlighted below. 1. They are usually bossy with a high sense of self importance. They see others as less important and only view them as an entity to satisfy themselves. 2. They take advantage of others just to help themselves achieve a goal, or to benefit themselves. 3. They envy others or believe others are envious of them. 4.

In our discussion yesterday, I said today’s discuss would centre on attitude. Attitude like other personality traits can define who someone is. Some people actually do not know what kind of attitude they have, so I’ll discuss it today for you to know the one you have and the one that its better to have. Attitude is one of the things that can get you through life. So what are the major type of attitudes. While today’s discuss won’t be a long one, I will try to explain this attitudes for you to understand. 1. Positive attitude 2. Negative attitude 1. Positive attitude : According to the name, this form of attitude deals with positivity. It hinges on having a positive mindset. A positive attitude moves one to always be positive towards situations. For example, someone positive would look for the good in others even when they display some of their bad behaviors. It breeds confidence and happiness along with determination to do well. Attitude sometimes is not automatic. A positi

ATTRACTION So lets talk attraction. What is attraction? Why do we need to know about it? Many people actually have to get attracted to a person before they relate with such person. For some, the attraction is instant, while others take time to build. It could be because of different reasons from the time to the place to the emotion one was feeling at that moment. The main reason, however, is that we have more than one type of attraction. Many people don’t know that there are different types of attractions as they are stereotyped to a particular form of attraction. In this discuss, I will cover two types of attractions that are common today. Types Of Attraction While there are different types of attractions, I will be discussing two types of attractions that border relationships. 1. Romantic attraction 2. Emotional attraction 1. Romantic attraction : This form of attraction is common. It hinges on the feeling of having a romantic relationship with someone. Romantic at

JEALOUSY Today’s discuss takes us to Jealousy. Jealousy is one of the few things that frustrate a relationship. Depending on how your type of jealousy, your relationship can last or end abruptly. Why is the discussion of jealousy important? A young man saw his girlfriend talking with another young man freely. He could see her smiling with this young man something she had reduced when with him. ‘Maybe it is this guy’s influence that is making my girlfriend act up’ was what was running through his head. He then moved to face this guy to show that the young man was trespassing on his territory. He shoved his girlfriend to one side when she tried talking to him about the issue. A young lady sees her boyfriend talking to another lady. She could see he is enjoying her company, smiling, maintaining eye contact while they spoke to themselves. The lady pulls her hair back while the young man was talking to her and she thinks ‘is she trying to seduce my boyfriend?’ She walks up to the

LOVE So I was thinking today about what to discuss. And I remembered that not all know the truth about love. Our emotions can fluctuate at times, and when I mean fluctuate, I mean can jump to excited state in nanoseconds. One can feel so exited or relatively shy around the person they have a crush on. But what really is love? It’s a strong feeling of caring about someone fuelled by the attraction of that person. Many times people get this thing that’s close to love. Its infatuation. Infatuation is also a strong feeling for someone or interest in someone. Usually, it doesn’t last long. It is always short lived. When you’ve spent sometime together, you get to see that you are not compatible. Infatuation can come from different things, or reasons, but the most common is the appearance. Many men tend to be attracted by the beauty of a lady; same can be said of ladies. Both men and ladies get drawn mostly by the physical attributes of the person. Some, actually get attracted to peo

MINDSET Our discussion today, takes us to mindset. Let’s take a step back and look at yesterday’s discuss. We spoke about PROGRESSION and the need to always progress. In yesterday’s discuss, we highlighted three examples. First, about the stream and the stagnant water. Second, we discussed about a man who searched to have a good job. Third, we discussed the achievement of Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg. In these three examples, we were able to see the need for progression. One thing about that however, is progression stems from having a mindset to progress, or move forward. Then, what is mindset? Mindset can be described as a particular way of thinking. A person’s attitude or set of opinions about something. This definition is straight-forward as to what a mindset is. From the two examples of yesterday’s article pointed earlier, there was a difference. The man, stopped after getting that job. Mark on the other hand didn’t stop after founding Facebook. He went on to purchase

PROGRESSION   Compare having a stream running behind your house to having a stagnant water. Which would you prefer? Most likely, you would prefer them stream. Why the stream? For one, it is flowing. Second, it is clear to see through. A stagnant water however doesn’t move. It gets dirty with time and would be the habitat to many disease causing insects. How does this comparison link to today’s discuss? The house is you, your life. It represents the kind of person you are, factors that affect you, conditions surrounding your life. Situations where you find yourself. The success and failures you experience. The stream or stagnant water however, represents your reactions to these factors, situations, conditions of the house. What then is progression? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines progression as the process of developing over a period of time, a continuous and connected series of actions, events, etc. It also describes stagnant as not active, not changing, or not progr

Today, we’re discussing something that troubles lots of people; LONELINESS or BEING LONELY. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines lonely as ‘sad from being apart from other people’, ‘causing sad feelings that come from being apart from other people’. Looking at the two definitions, we notice two things are common. First ‘sad’, the second, ‘being apart from other people’. Is being apart from other people not BEING ALONE? Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines ALONE as being ‘without anyone or anything else’ or ‘without people that you know or that usually are with you’. What is now the difference between BEING ALONE and BEING LONELY? Looking back at the definition of lonely, we find the exact difference. Being alone is a state of being, while being lonely is a feeling of that state. To be alone, people would not be around you. It’s you all by yourself. Being lonely, however, is different. You can be among people and still be lonely, which points to the fact that you don’t need to be a

DEPRESSION A medical condition that makes you unhappy and anxious and often prevents you from living a normal life making one think there is no hope for the future. Depression is very common in today’s world. With pressure coming from different sides, a depressed person can suffer from symptoms such as anxiety (the feeling of being worried about something), apathy (not being interested in something and not willing to change it), general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, and sadness. These symptoms could lead to one having excess sleeplessness, insomnia (not being able to sleep) or restless sleep. It could also affect the body that one suffers from excessive hunger, fatigue (very great tiredness), loss of appetite, excessive crying, irritation, social isolation, lack of concentration, slowness in activity weight gain or weight loss, repeatedly going over thoughts and the tip of it, thoughts of suicide. While it’s generally adv

What does it really mean to forgive? Many times, we get to anger other people, either through our words or actions. People sometimes talk without thinking, blurting out the first thing that pops up in their head. Sometimes these words could have a negative effect on us. It could stir up feelings of anger that almost always makes one lash out at anything coming his way. Let’s see an example. Three friends were discussing about themselves in public, talking about the funny things they did when they were young. One used a degrading term to qualify one of the friends in a joke, obviously without thinking of the state of mind of that friend. They all laughed at the resultant joke, but while the friend was returning home, he started thinking about what was said about him. Gradually, he began developing anger towards the friend for talking about him that way. What was the result? He lashed out. Yes, at another driver. The road wasn’t big enough for overtaking. While he was thinking, and cr

In his book ‘How to Communicate’, Gordon wells highlighted a major rule for communicating. He used the KISS rule. The Keep It Short and Simple (KISS) rule involves using short sentences, one statement per sentence. It involves using no unnecessary words, keeping it as simple as possible. Why is this important? To communicate is to express ones thoughts and feelings so that the other party can understand. Applying the KISS rule can help achieve this feat. Keeping sentences as simple as possible can help in letting the other party understand the point being made. Keeping your conversation simple helps build a healthy conversation. Lets highlight and discuss the major forms of communication. 1. Verbal communication :- This form of communication involves passing out information orally. It’s all about talking. This is the first and major way people communicate today. Verbal communication can help the one listening discern the feeling of the person talking. Discerning this is easy.